Don’t Despair – Self Confidence Can Be yours

Have you always been shy? Were you a timid child? Have you ever felt you were a confident person? In fact, have you ever considered that you could be develop self confidence or have you told yourself for so long that you are a shy person? Maybe your mum used to say you were “a timid little thing” or “wouldn’t say boo to a goose”. When you were at children’s parties were you always the last one to join in and through school did you always hold back because that “wasn’t your way”.

Because you were told you were shy, every day you have reinforced your shyness by your behaviour – hanging back – not joining in. If you think about it, you will realise that you BELIEVE you are a shy, timid person. You may never have even thought of yourself as a confident, self assured person. Why not? Because over time, you and everyone close to you has reinforced the fact that you are shy and it has been embedded in your subconscious mind.

“An old belief is like an old shoe. We so value its comfort that we fail to notice the hole in it”. Robert Brault.

What if you didn’t believe you were shy? What would your life be like? What could you undertake? Who would you meet? Where would you go? What could you accomplish? Life could be frightening or life could be exciting. BELIEVE it or not life is what you believe it to be. If you believed you were confident, what could you do?

“It's me who is my enemy, Me who beats me up, Me who makes the monsters, Me who strips my confidence.” Paula Cole, "Me", This Fire.

How about you make a change in your thinking? Are you ready to change? Do you want to change? You know the answer is yes because you’ve read this far. You are ready to move out of your comfort zone. So far in your life shyness and timidness has been “your habit” without you knowing it. From today onwards “self confidence and self assuredness” will be your new habit.

In the morning, evening and anytime you have a free moment you need to be reinforcing your new habit. You need to be telling yourself “I am a confident and self assured person”. You can do this by repeating it out loud to yourself, or inwardly repeating it to yourself. As well as telling yourself “I am a confident and self assured person” create several positive affirmations just applicable to you eg “When I see (insert the name of the person you want to be with) I am a happy, confident, fun to be with guy (or girl)”. When you are repeating these affirmations to yourself combine them with visualisations of how you will feel. This alone will make you feel awesome. Keep doing this daily, as many times as you can fit it and you will notice a change in yourself. You will be feeling great, you will continue to reinforce your new feelings and your self confidence will increase and as you continue daily to reinforce your new feelings, your confidence will spiral upwards.

"You are what you repeatedly do. Excellence is not an event - it is a habit." Aristotle 384-322 BC, Greek Philosopher and Scientist.

Believe in yourself, believe what you want to about yourself, believe it and live it. Self confidence can be yours. It’s there waiting for you to call it to action. Call it now, be confident, be the new you.