Do you have a wish list of things you would like to do, places you would like to visit and even the type of person you’d like to be? Have you thought of actually writing these down? Seeing your wishes on paper can be very motivating but also daunting. Your list of wishes could include doing a parachute jump, holidaying in the Bahamas, having self confidence and being self assured. Once you start you might not be able to stop. It can be a very cathartic process. But in the back of your mind do you tell yourself these are just wishes?
Well most people don’t just get all their dreams handed to them on a plate. They get them by taking steps towards them every day. They take actions to move them towards their dreams and goals. People who get what they want often take a long term view of life. They know that they must take every achievement no matter how small or how grand and learn from it. They will build upon these achievements and move closer to their goals – undaunted.
So, how do you do it? How do you turn your wishes into reality? You make a start and look at your wishes, do some personal goal setting. You have to transform your wishes into goals. Don’t panic if you’ve set yourself giant daunting goals. Chunk them down into manageable chunks. If one of your goals is to overcome shyness and be more self assured, give yourself small goals every day: smile at someone you like; say hello to a stranger; join an evening class. Goals are wishes with timetables for completion.
Look at all your wishes and separate them into short term, medium term and long term goals. When you’ve done that allocate specific dates to each goal. This will give you a plan for your life. Take action daily towards your goals and make regular appointments with yourself – just like a business appointment - and review your progress. Remember build on every achievement. But most importantly start now and do something every day to get closer to your dreams.
"Waiting is a trap. There will always be reasons to wait. The truth is, there are only two things in life, reasons and results, and reasons simply don't count."Dr. Robert Anthony Educator.
Imagine that you are in your eighties looking back on your life and wishing you had taken action on your dreams. Imagine what it would feel like, shut your eyes and really feel it. What if years and years ago you had written down your wishes – you wanted self confidence, to meet people, you wanted to travel and see The Pyramids, Ayres Rock, the Great Wall of China and the Grand Canyon. How would you feel? Would you regret that you could have experienced more, had more friends and lived a fuller more enriched life? Would you have wished that you had made a plan with steps that would have led to you reaching your goal? If you are really feeling this, you will feel devastated that your life has passed you by. Don’t get to the end of your life and wish you’d taken action. You can make a change NOW. You can start to change your life NOW. Write your wishes down, chunk them down into manageable goals, set yourself deadlines, work towards them every day.
Personal goal setting can help you become one of the people that DOES things, don’t put them off, become an achiever, little by little, little steps or big steps so long as you are moving you are going along the right road. Don’t just dream it. Be who you want to be. Live the life you want.
Friday, 26 February 2010
Self Confidence Conditioning - a personal development plan
Confidence Conditioning? What’s all that about? Well it’s about training and getting into a habit just like an athlete would train for the Olympics. Confidence Conditioning will get your mind aware, alert and trained to what you want to believe.
In the past you might have followed all the right steps to gain self confidence – you’ve believed you are confident, you have repeated positive affirmations to yourself, you’ve visualised and felt how confidence feels but....... you’ve only done this a few times when you’ve had the time, you’ve not done this on a daily, continuous basis. Maybe you think it sounds a bit boring but think about it, you have the ability within you NOW to have complete and ultimate confidence or you could just ignore this advice and carry on as you are. What’s it to be?
Okay, you’ve decided on complete and ultimate self confidence. What you now need to do is get your mind in training with a personal development plan. Get alert, get switched on. Start and maintain the training. Make it a habit. It’s your life. Get your mind conditioned to be in training for complete and ultimate confidence.
How? Condition, Rehearse, Repetition Reinforce again and again. Make it a habit. Make the change in your brain that is constant and consistent. The brain is an unbelievable organ so much more powerful than the most complicated computer invented so far. Placebo tablets can work on ill people because they have been told they are a wonder cure and their belief is so powerful their brain acts on their belief and makes them well. It has been shown that your brain can’t tell the difference between something you imagine that is crystal clear and as though it is real from something that you actually experience.
You need to rehearse and imagine how confident you will be and intensely feel how it will be, how your life will improve. You will rehearse this passionate vision of your ultimate confidence again and again in your mind, every morning, every night before you go to sleep and any other time in the day you make time for it. Your brain will see by the constant repetition that this is a better way for you to live. It makes you happier. From this constant conditioning your brain will want to operate this powerful new pattern.
So now you know what your ultimate vision of self confidence is. You are imagining and rehearsing this crystal clear vision with total belief and intensity. You are doing this every day, many times, it’s effortless, it’s a happy feeling, it unforced, it’s now a habit. It’s a personal development plan. Your life is changing and improving.
“Decorate yourself from the inside out”. Andrei Turnhollow.
Keep the intensity and desire fresh by reinforcing your new brain conditioning. Be aware of how you are changing and no matter how minute you think the change is, immediately reward yourself. Maybe you start to feel more self assured, maybe you’ve smiled at someone, it doesn’t matter what it is, reward yourself immediately! Your brain will link this new conditioning to pleasure and say “Yes please!! Give me more.” By continually reinforcing your new pattern of confidence conditioning and rewarding yourself immediately you will change how your brain works.
“There is nothing training cannot do. Nothing is above its reach. It can turn bad morals to good; it can destroy bad principles and recreate good ones; it can lift men to angelship”. Mark Twain.
Yes, you can change. You can make the change permanent. Want it, believe it rehearse it in your brain with a passion, make it a habit, make it effortless, make it consistent, condition yourself for confidence and reinforce these new behaviours. Ultimate confidence is yours, condition, rehearse, reinforce, reinforce, reinforce.
In the past you might have followed all the right steps to gain self confidence – you’ve believed you are confident, you have repeated positive affirmations to yourself, you’ve visualised and felt how confidence feels but....... you’ve only done this a few times when you’ve had the time, you’ve not done this on a daily, continuous basis. Maybe you think it sounds a bit boring but think about it, you have the ability within you NOW to have complete and ultimate confidence or you could just ignore this advice and carry on as you are. What’s it to be?
Okay, you’ve decided on complete and ultimate self confidence. What you now need to do is get your mind in training with a personal development plan. Get alert, get switched on. Start and maintain the training. Make it a habit. It’s your life. Get your mind conditioned to be in training for complete and ultimate confidence.
How? Condition, Rehearse, Repetition Reinforce again and again. Make it a habit. Make the change in your brain that is constant and consistent. The brain is an unbelievable organ so much more powerful than the most complicated computer invented so far. Placebo tablets can work on ill people because they have been told they are a wonder cure and their belief is so powerful their brain acts on their belief and makes them well. It has been shown that your brain can’t tell the difference between something you imagine that is crystal clear and as though it is real from something that you actually experience.
You need to rehearse and imagine how confident you will be and intensely feel how it will be, how your life will improve. You will rehearse this passionate vision of your ultimate confidence again and again in your mind, every morning, every night before you go to sleep and any other time in the day you make time for it. Your brain will see by the constant repetition that this is a better way for you to live. It makes you happier. From this constant conditioning your brain will want to operate this powerful new pattern.
So now you know what your ultimate vision of self confidence is. You are imagining and rehearsing this crystal clear vision with total belief and intensity. You are doing this every day, many times, it’s effortless, it’s a happy feeling, it unforced, it’s now a habit. It’s a personal development plan. Your life is changing and improving.
“Decorate yourself from the inside out”. Andrei Turnhollow.
Keep the intensity and desire fresh by reinforcing your new brain conditioning. Be aware of how you are changing and no matter how minute you think the change is, immediately reward yourself. Maybe you start to feel more self assured, maybe you’ve smiled at someone, it doesn’t matter what it is, reward yourself immediately! Your brain will link this new conditioning to pleasure and say “Yes please!! Give me more.” By continually reinforcing your new pattern of confidence conditioning and rewarding yourself immediately you will change how your brain works.
“There is nothing training cannot do. Nothing is above its reach. It can turn bad morals to good; it can destroy bad principles and recreate good ones; it can lift men to angelship”. Mark Twain.
Yes, you can change. You can make the change permanent. Want it, believe it rehearse it in your brain with a passion, make it a habit, make it effortless, make it consistent, condition yourself for confidence and reinforce these new behaviours. Ultimate confidence is yours, condition, rehearse, reinforce, reinforce, reinforce.
Don’t Despair – Self Confidence Can Be yours
Have you always been shy? Were you a timid child? Have you ever felt you were a confident person? In fact, have you ever considered that you could be develop self confidence or have you told yourself for so long that you are a shy person? Maybe your mum used to say you were “a timid little thing” or “wouldn’t say boo to a goose”. When you were at children’s parties were you always the last one to join in and through school did you always hold back because that “wasn’t your way”.
Because you were told you were shy, every day you have reinforced your shyness by your behaviour – hanging back – not joining in. If you think about it, you will realise that you BELIEVE you are a shy, timid person. You may never have even thought of yourself as a confident, self assured person. Why not? Because over time, you and everyone close to you has reinforced the fact that you are shy and it has been embedded in your subconscious mind.
“An old belief is like an old shoe. We so value its comfort that we fail to notice the hole in it”. Robert Brault.
What if you didn’t believe you were shy? What would your life be like? What could you undertake? Who would you meet? Where would you go? What could you accomplish? Life could be frightening or life could be exciting. BELIEVE it or not life is what you believe it to be. If you believed you were confident, what could you do?
“It's me who is my enemy, Me who beats me up, Me who makes the monsters, Me who strips my confidence.” Paula Cole, "Me", This Fire.
How about you make a change in your thinking? Are you ready to change? Do you want to change? You know the answer is yes because you’ve read this far. You are ready to move out of your comfort zone. So far in your life shyness and timidness has been “your habit” without you knowing it. From today onwards “self confidence and self assuredness” will be your new habit.
In the morning, evening and anytime you have a free moment you need to be reinforcing your new habit. You need to be telling yourself “I am a confident and self assured person”. You can do this by repeating it out loud to yourself, or inwardly repeating it to yourself. As well as telling yourself “I am a confident and self assured person” create several positive affirmations just applicable to you eg “When I see (insert the name of the person you want to be with) I am a happy, confident, fun to be with guy (or girl)”. When you are repeating these affirmations to yourself combine them with visualisations of how you will feel. This alone will make you feel awesome. Keep doing this daily, as many times as you can fit it and you will notice a change in yourself. You will be feeling great, you will continue to reinforce your new feelings and your self confidence will increase and as you continue daily to reinforce your new feelings, your confidence will spiral upwards.
"You are what you repeatedly do. Excellence is not an event - it is a habit." Aristotle 384-322 BC, Greek Philosopher and Scientist.
Believe in yourself, believe what you want to about yourself, believe it and live it. Self confidence can be yours. It’s there waiting for you to call it to action. Call it now, be confident, be the new you.
Because you were told you were shy, every day you have reinforced your shyness by your behaviour – hanging back – not joining in. If you think about it, you will realise that you BELIEVE you are a shy, timid person. You may never have even thought of yourself as a confident, self assured person. Why not? Because over time, you and everyone close to you has reinforced the fact that you are shy and it has been embedded in your subconscious mind.
“An old belief is like an old shoe. We so value its comfort that we fail to notice the hole in it”. Robert Brault.
What if you didn’t believe you were shy? What would your life be like? What could you undertake? Who would you meet? Where would you go? What could you accomplish? Life could be frightening or life could be exciting. BELIEVE it or not life is what you believe it to be. If you believed you were confident, what could you do?
“It's me who is my enemy, Me who beats me up, Me who makes the monsters, Me who strips my confidence.” Paula Cole, "Me", This Fire.
How about you make a change in your thinking? Are you ready to change? Do you want to change? You know the answer is yes because you’ve read this far. You are ready to move out of your comfort zone. So far in your life shyness and timidness has been “your habit” without you knowing it. From today onwards “self confidence and self assuredness” will be your new habit.
In the morning, evening and anytime you have a free moment you need to be reinforcing your new habit. You need to be telling yourself “I am a confident and self assured person”. You can do this by repeating it out loud to yourself, or inwardly repeating it to yourself. As well as telling yourself “I am a confident and self assured person” create several positive affirmations just applicable to you eg “When I see (insert the name of the person you want to be with) I am a happy, confident, fun to be with guy (or girl)”. When you are repeating these affirmations to yourself combine them with visualisations of how you will feel. This alone will make you feel awesome. Keep doing this daily, as many times as you can fit it and you will notice a change in yourself. You will be feeling great, you will continue to reinforce your new feelings and your self confidence will increase and as you continue daily to reinforce your new feelings, your confidence will spiral upwards.
"You are what you repeatedly do. Excellence is not an event - it is a habit." Aristotle 384-322 BC, Greek Philosopher and Scientist.
Believe in yourself, believe what you want to about yourself, believe it and live it. Self confidence can be yours. It’s there waiting for you to call it to action. Call it now, be confident, be the new you.
Thursday, 25 February 2010
Chunk it to Create Self Confidence
When things get on top of you in business, friendships or in family life, it’s easy to lose confidence in yourself. Your self esteem gets dented and you doubt you can “do it all”. You see other people with successful careers or businesses, busy family lives, immaculate houses and wonder how they do it. Or do you look at them “with it all” and think that you are inadequate. Does it start to chip away at your self confidence? If they have a busy job, a family, a neat contemporary home why can’t you? What’s wrong with you? Do you start to get overwhelmed by just the little things?
Over time, this constant doubting yourself and chipping away at your self confidence can have a massive cumulative effect. But it doesn’t have to be like this. Stop the negative self talk and stop comparing yourself to others. You are you. Your life is your life. You can change it but stop the comparisons now. You can only move on when you decide to focus on you and your life. Look inside you. Forget looking at others.
Okay, let begin with how to start, without being overwhelmed by the enormity of the task. Let’s start small. Small steps, small chunks are manageable. You can do it. Just focus on you, remember no comparisons. Maybe you are an untidy person: perhaps in your appearance; how you work; your desk; your house. So where to start? Pick one area. It doesn’t matter which one. Small steps. You’ve heard of the expression: “How do you eat an elephant? The answer - Just one little chunk at a time”.
Obviously this is just an expression, that explains how to tackle a big problem (don’t eat an elephant!). Let’s just pick the first one. Now make a list of things that would improve your appearance:
- Get your hair cut
- Wear clean modern or classic clothes that suit you
- Sort out any old or out of date clothes and pass onto a charity shop
- Get in touch with a style guru or buy a book about how to look good.
Now even that list might overwhelm you. Chunk it down again.
Let’s pick one - sort out your old or out of date clothes. Set yourself a target to do every day eg go through a draw of clothes a day and sort out what is out of date or doesn’t fit you, then, when you’ve done all the draws, start on the wardrobes. Just limit yourself to a section a day. Chunk it down!
As you get these small tasks done you will be amazed at the impact these simple achievements will have on your life. You will start to regain your self confidence in your ability to get things done or make changes in your life. You will feel fresher, positive and optimistic. Your confidence will increase as these little changes you are making add up to give a massive cumulative effect on your feelings of self worth and self esteem.
The key points are to FOCUS on you. STOP the comparisons. Pick something you want to change or improve upon and CHUNK IT DOWN. Remember no task or change is too big if you chunk it!
Over time, this constant doubting yourself and chipping away at your self confidence can have a massive cumulative effect. But it doesn’t have to be like this. Stop the negative self talk and stop comparing yourself to others. You are you. Your life is your life. You can change it but stop the comparisons now. You can only move on when you decide to focus on you and your life. Look inside you. Forget looking at others.
Okay, let begin with how to start, without being overwhelmed by the enormity of the task. Let’s start small. Small steps, small chunks are manageable. You can do it. Just focus on you, remember no comparisons. Maybe you are an untidy person: perhaps in your appearance; how you work; your desk; your house. So where to start? Pick one area. It doesn’t matter which one. Small steps. You’ve heard of the expression: “How do you eat an elephant? The answer - Just one little chunk at a time”.
Obviously this is just an expression, that explains how to tackle a big problem (don’t eat an elephant!). Let’s just pick the first one. Now make a list of things that would improve your appearance:
- Get your hair cut
- Wear clean modern or classic clothes that suit you
- Sort out any old or out of date clothes and pass onto a charity shop
- Get in touch with a style guru or buy a book about how to look good.
Now even that list might overwhelm you. Chunk it down again.
Let’s pick one - sort out your old or out of date clothes. Set yourself a target to do every day eg go through a draw of clothes a day and sort out what is out of date or doesn’t fit you, then, when you’ve done all the draws, start on the wardrobes. Just limit yourself to a section a day. Chunk it down!
As you get these small tasks done you will be amazed at the impact these simple achievements will have on your life. You will start to regain your self confidence in your ability to get things done or make changes in your life. You will feel fresher, positive and optimistic. Your confidence will increase as these little changes you are making add up to give a massive cumulative effect on your feelings of self worth and self esteem.
The key points are to FOCUS on you. STOP the comparisons. Pick something you want to change or improve upon and CHUNK IT DOWN. Remember no task or change is too big if you chunk it!
Body Confidence and Ideal Body Image
Are you a confident person in most areas of your life? Are you confident in your job, how you run your family life, your relationships with your friends and colleagues? But there is one area in your life that you have never been able to master – how you look – your body image. Maybe you don’t have an ideal body image - you are not happy with your tummy, or butt or legs. You could be the ideal weight for your height but you still may have an issue with your flabby arms or chunky calves. You berate yourself and feel irritated whenever your body is in the spotlight even if it’s just what to wear for a family dinner out or looking at the holiday photos. You feel like a slob and out of control even though you are in control over many other critical parts of your life. This one area of body image can utterly dominate your thoughts and diminish your self confidence totally, whilst belittling the control you have on 99% of your life.
"Remember, happiness doesn't depend on who you are or what you have; it depends solely on what you think." Dale Carnegie 1888-1955, Writer and Lecturer.
You need to take a step back and look at your life in total. Look at it as though you are an observer. Take stock, audit your body. Okay you might need to lose some weight. Contact your doctor’s surgery. It’s a high priority worldwide. They will advise you on how much you need to lose. You can find a plan that suits you and take action and follow it through. But maybe you are at a healthy weight but the only imperfections are in your eyes. You need to re-evaluate how you see yourself and how you treat yourself.
Make your inner speak to yourself positive and kind. It’s your body you have to live in every day, love your body, treat it well.
“If we are ever to enjoy life, now is the time, not tomorrow or next year. Today should always be our most wonderful day."Thomas Dreier Author.
Forgive yourself, the past is the past, you can’t change it. Move on, learn from past but don’t dwell on it. Change how you think about your body. It’s yours be grateful and get your ideal body image.
"Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don't wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it's at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and savored." Earl Nightingale 1921-1989, Author and Radio Announcer.
You body image can affect your overall love of life. You are only here once (supposedly). Put your body image in perspective. It’s just a part of your life. Look at your body audit you did earlier, put it in perspective with the rest of your life. Be optimistic about your life, trust your body. Overcome any confidence crisis that has been caused by your body image. It’s your body. Learn to love it. Allow yourself to live in the body you want, with the ideal body image you need. Start living life at the 100% level. Love life.
"Remember, happiness doesn't depend on who you are or what you have; it depends solely on what you think." Dale Carnegie 1888-1955, Writer and Lecturer.
You need to take a step back and look at your life in total. Look at it as though you are an observer. Take stock, audit your body. Okay you might need to lose some weight. Contact your doctor’s surgery. It’s a high priority worldwide. They will advise you on how much you need to lose. You can find a plan that suits you and take action and follow it through. But maybe you are at a healthy weight but the only imperfections are in your eyes. You need to re-evaluate how you see yourself and how you treat yourself.
Make your inner speak to yourself positive and kind. It’s your body you have to live in every day, love your body, treat it well.
“If we are ever to enjoy life, now is the time, not tomorrow or next year. Today should always be our most wonderful day."Thomas Dreier Author.
Forgive yourself, the past is the past, you can’t change it. Move on, learn from past but don’t dwell on it. Change how you think about your body. It’s yours be grateful and get your ideal body image.
"Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don't wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it's at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and savored." Earl Nightingale 1921-1989, Author and Radio Announcer.
You body image can affect your overall love of life. You are only here once (supposedly). Put your body image in perspective. It’s just a part of your life. Look at your body audit you did earlier, put it in perspective with the rest of your life. Be optimistic about your life, trust your body. Overcome any confidence crisis that has been caused by your body image. It’s your body. Learn to love it. Allow yourself to live in the body you want, with the ideal body image you need. Start living life at the 100% level. Love life.
Motivation techniques for creating the life you desire
Could your life be better? Do you imagine a different more vibrant lifestyle? Have you planned to make changes but never actually got round to actually changing anything? Does the idea always sound good but deep down you know nothing is ever going to change? Why should it? Nothing has ever happened before. STOP now is the time to get a heavy weight partner on board, it’s time to harness the potential of your subconscious to your motivation techniques.
Here are a couple of facts about your subconscious mind. It processes about 400 billion bits of information per second and the impulses travel at speeds of up to 100,000 mph. Your conscious mind on the other hand processes only about 2000 bits of information per second and these impulses travel at speeds of between 100 and 150 mph. So let’s start working with the super subconscious.
Your mind believes what you tell it and if nothing has changed for you yet , you could be harbouring limiting beliefs about yourself.
“Whether you believe you can do a thing or not, you're right” Henry Ford
So if you believe “deep down” that nothing is ever going to change what you are really doing is telling yourself that you will fail. This belief has to change otherwise nothing else will. You must believe that from now on you will send positive life changing thoughts to your mind. You have the same right as everyone else to fulfil your dreams. You have the power in your mind to achieve your destiny.
"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try one more time."Thomas Edison 1847-1931, Inventor and Entrepreneur
When you read the blueprint below, you may have seen the motivation techniques before, you may have even taken action on them BUT if you believed deep down, that nothing was going to change then nothing would change. You set yourself up to fail. You were doing all the right things but your mind had been programmed to fail.
Okay, let’s not delay. The Confidence Blueprint steps are:
- Take time to think about the life you want. Look at all areas: financial; work and career; family and friends; holidays and experiences; health and physical; self development; spiritual and social.
"If you don't know where you are going, you will wind up somewhere else!" Lawrence "Yogi" Berra Baseball Player and Team Manager
- Write down your goals, break them down into short, medium and long term goals
- Assign times and deadlines to them
- Reassess them monthly to ensure you are on track
- Keep reaffirming to yourself several times everyday – I can do it. Belief is a concept that you are in charge of.
- Be in Control. Focus on your desires and make the time to design your life.
- Apply your mind to your goals do not become distracted: by surfing the internet; watching the internet; reading spam and jokey emails. Apply and Focus your mind. This is what will make the difference.
- Be brave. If you tell your friends about your goals they might laugh at you or tell you you’ll never do it. You don’t need to tell them anything if you don’t want to. You need to be brave and be different from everyone else because you want something different to them. If you just want more of what you and friends have got at the moment - getting up - going to work – having your dinner – watching the tele – going to bed and then doing it all again – well then if you listen to their negative comments that’s just what you’ll have. Be brave and separate yourself from the herd.
- Keep focus and apply yourself to the beliefs and actions. Keep reaffirming to yourself several times a day – I can do it.
Program your subconscious by imprinting these motivation techniques on your mind. Program your mind by reaffirming your goals to yourself several times a day. Take time each day to visualise what you want. Then take your visualisation to the next level, actually feel now what it would be like to have what you want, see it as though it’s right here with you, the bright colours, hear the sounds it makes. See yourself as part of picture. Start living in your mind the life you desire. Imprint on it what your life is like. Make your goals positive and as though you have already achieved them such as I am a confident, friendly person who finds meeting new people really easy.
The Confidence Blueprint works. It can be applied to any other areas of your life. Know what you want, believe you can do it, take action, reaffirm your beliefs, control your mind, apply and focus constantly and your life will change in line with your actions and beliefs. Do it and Believe it. Start today.
"You are what you repeatedly do. Excellence is not an event - it is a habit."Aristotle 384-322 BC, Greek Philosopher and Scientist
Here are a couple of facts about your subconscious mind. It processes about 400 billion bits of information per second and the impulses travel at speeds of up to 100,000 mph. Your conscious mind on the other hand processes only about 2000 bits of information per second and these impulses travel at speeds of between 100 and 150 mph. So let’s start working with the super subconscious.
Your mind believes what you tell it and if nothing has changed for you yet , you could be harbouring limiting beliefs about yourself.
“Whether you believe you can do a thing or not, you're right” Henry Ford
So if you believe “deep down” that nothing is ever going to change what you are really doing is telling yourself that you will fail. This belief has to change otherwise nothing else will. You must believe that from now on you will send positive life changing thoughts to your mind. You have the same right as everyone else to fulfil your dreams. You have the power in your mind to achieve your destiny.
"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try one more time."Thomas Edison 1847-1931, Inventor and Entrepreneur
When you read the blueprint below, you may have seen the motivation techniques before, you may have even taken action on them BUT if you believed deep down, that nothing was going to change then nothing would change. You set yourself up to fail. You were doing all the right things but your mind had been programmed to fail.
Okay, let’s not delay. The Confidence Blueprint steps are:
- Take time to think about the life you want. Look at all areas: financial; work and career; family and friends; holidays and experiences; health and physical; self development; spiritual and social.
"If you don't know where you are going, you will wind up somewhere else!" Lawrence "Yogi" Berra Baseball Player and Team Manager
- Write down your goals, break them down into short, medium and long term goals
- Assign times and deadlines to them
- Reassess them monthly to ensure you are on track
- Keep reaffirming to yourself several times everyday – I can do it. Belief is a concept that you are in charge of.
- Be in Control. Focus on your desires and make the time to design your life.
- Apply your mind to your goals do not become distracted: by surfing the internet; watching the internet; reading spam and jokey emails. Apply and Focus your mind. This is what will make the difference.
- Be brave. If you tell your friends about your goals they might laugh at you or tell you you’ll never do it. You don’t need to tell them anything if you don’t want to. You need to be brave and be different from everyone else because you want something different to them. If you just want more of what you and friends have got at the moment - getting up - going to work – having your dinner – watching the tele – going to bed and then doing it all again – well then if you listen to their negative comments that’s just what you’ll have. Be brave and separate yourself from the herd.
- Keep focus and apply yourself to the beliefs and actions. Keep reaffirming to yourself several times a day – I can do it.
Program your subconscious by imprinting these motivation techniques on your mind. Program your mind by reaffirming your goals to yourself several times a day. Take time each day to visualise what you want. Then take your visualisation to the next level, actually feel now what it would be like to have what you want, see it as though it’s right here with you, the bright colours, hear the sounds it makes. See yourself as part of picture. Start living in your mind the life you desire. Imprint on it what your life is like. Make your goals positive and as though you have already achieved them such as I am a confident, friendly person who finds meeting new people really easy.
The Confidence Blueprint works. It can be applied to any other areas of your life. Know what you want, believe you can do it, take action, reaffirm your beliefs, control your mind, apply and focus constantly and your life will change in line with your actions and beliefs. Do it and Believe it. Start today.
"You are what you repeatedly do. Excellence is not an event - it is a habit."Aristotle 384-322 BC, Greek Philosopher and Scientist
Wednesday, 24 February 2010
How to use powers of belief for self improvement and motivation
Do you ever look in the mirror and say to yourself “who are you?”. I remember doing this a lot when I was in my teens but not much since. We are what we have become like it or not through our thoughts, beliefs and actions up until this point. Not many of us really think deeply about our beliefs, even though they are essential to our well being. Belief is the most powerful state of mind because your belief system defines and moulds who you are and determines your potential.
Your belief system doesn’t judge or criticize, it simply accepts as truth what you tell it. That is a powerful concept that Henry Ford agreed with when he said “Whether you think you can or think you can’t – you are right.” Beliefs have a direct impact on our self improvement and motivation. Put simply we can have positive beliefs and negative beliefs. A positive belief can set a target such as to lose weight by diet and exercise. A negative belief will lead to negative behavior, such as if you have always been told by your parents you’ll never get a job and you believe them, you won’t get a job, you’ll squander your time and subconsciously prove them right BUT if you tell yourself they are wrong and that you will get a job, your actions will be motivated and geared to finding a job. Your belief system is such a powerful tool. We need to be alert to the possibilities of belief and self talk.
Okay we all have doubts – whether you can do that job, whether you’ll be able to give that presentation, whether you can pass your driving test – and these doubts are okay in small doses, they remind us we have to take action to succeed, whether it be polish up our interview skills, be prepared for the presentation or know the Highway code. Some people think of these doubts as a little devil sat on our shoulder always dismissing what we do, always putting us down. The problem begins if you cannot see past this inner doubt. You have to get the balance right between inner doubt and inner confidence.
Your inner confidence is the voice you need to listen to and pay attention to. It is the voice of inspiration, courage and support and powers our self improvement and motivation. It can make your life change into a vibrant, glowing, growing success. Successful people have inner confidence. They have this supportive inner voice encouraging them on to success even when the inner doubt (or little devil) tries to raise his voice and tells you, you can’t do it. “You have to expect things of yourself before you can do them”. ~Michael Jordan Basketball player
Think about yourself and whose voice is the loudest in your head. Is it the inner voice of confidence or the inner voice of doubt? You are in control and can change the balance. Remember what we have been saying throughout this article, ”Your belief system doesn’t judge or criticize, it simply accepts as truth what you tell it”. So tell it something good about yourself!
Change the balance in your head to be in favour of your self improvement and motivation. Banish any negative thoughts of defeat and failure. You are where you are today because of your journey so far in life. Life is constantly changing and developing. You can change and develop too. Change your thoughts to reflect who you want to become don’t just be the person are because of what you’ve thought of yourself so far. Get rid of any negative beliefs you’ve carried with you for years. Unburden yourself now. Be positive, think positive thoughts. It’s your time to stop making excuses, give the power to your inner voice of confidence and start enjoying life and getting what you want out of life.
Your belief system doesn’t judge or criticize, it simply accepts as truth what you tell it. That is a powerful concept that Henry Ford agreed with when he said “Whether you think you can or think you can’t – you are right.” Beliefs have a direct impact on our self improvement and motivation. Put simply we can have positive beliefs and negative beliefs. A positive belief can set a target such as to lose weight by diet and exercise. A negative belief will lead to negative behavior, such as if you have always been told by your parents you’ll never get a job and you believe them, you won’t get a job, you’ll squander your time and subconsciously prove them right BUT if you tell yourself they are wrong and that you will get a job, your actions will be motivated and geared to finding a job. Your belief system is such a powerful tool. We need to be alert to the possibilities of belief and self talk.
Okay we all have doubts – whether you can do that job, whether you’ll be able to give that presentation, whether you can pass your driving test – and these doubts are okay in small doses, they remind us we have to take action to succeed, whether it be polish up our interview skills, be prepared for the presentation or know the Highway code. Some people think of these doubts as a little devil sat on our shoulder always dismissing what we do, always putting us down. The problem begins if you cannot see past this inner doubt. You have to get the balance right between inner doubt and inner confidence.
Your inner confidence is the voice you need to listen to and pay attention to. It is the voice of inspiration, courage and support and powers our self improvement and motivation. It can make your life change into a vibrant, glowing, growing success. Successful people have inner confidence. They have this supportive inner voice encouraging them on to success even when the inner doubt (or little devil) tries to raise his voice and tells you, you can’t do it. “You have to expect things of yourself before you can do them”. ~Michael Jordan Basketball player
Think about yourself and whose voice is the loudest in your head. Is it the inner voice of confidence or the inner voice of doubt? You are in control and can change the balance. Remember what we have been saying throughout this article, ”Your belief system doesn’t judge or criticize, it simply accepts as truth what you tell it”. So tell it something good about yourself!
Change the balance in your head to be in favour of your self improvement and motivation. Banish any negative thoughts of defeat and failure. You are where you are today because of your journey so far in life. Life is constantly changing and developing. You can change and develop too. Change your thoughts to reflect who you want to become don’t just be the person are because of what you’ve thought of yourself so far. Get rid of any negative beliefs you’ve carried with you for years. Unburden yourself now. Be positive, think positive thoughts. It’s your time to stop making excuses, give the power to your inner voice of confidence and start enjoying life and getting what you want out of life.
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